The 'appropriate response' is derived from compassion, from 'right view'
Bankai...zen master who responded to his angry students by stating that his response, his work is to teach the thief-apprentice monk right from wrong, rather than dismissing him from the community.
Right view includes realizing that we are all part of a 'whole'.
'Right' has many translations including 'upright', 'complete', 'not leaning one way or the other'
Katagiri Roshi: you can't know the middle way until you know the two extremes. Anywhere between the two extremes is the 'middle way'.